and I won’t apologize for it anymore.
Last week I ended up again with 2 lady friends in the conversation if it’s true that every guy you have sex with leaves their DNA and energy within your body, and they went even further... that if you have a child, this child will carry the DNA of all these previous partners.
I call this SLUTSHAMING, with a spiritual taste to it.
Historically women have always been thought to play small sexually with concepts as 'the honor of losing your virginity' (when I imagine this to be spoken out loud, I can only hear it from a low male voice, lol, seriously) and the hymen that breaks. Which is medically also a bullshit story as ‘hymen’ is biologically totally different than what most of us think it is. Or the concept that a woman loses value if she had sex before the marriage or with more than one man.
And even though, I love those friends dearly, I’m tired of having this conversation. It even hurts me deeply that I have to explain to conscious, empowered women again and again that they are in the total capacity of allowing sexual interactions to be something innocent and beautiful in which they have the power to ‘save’ or ‘delete’ energy. Because when it is not a beautiful experience, because it was not consensual or they regret it for some reason, they don’t have to carry that energy for forever.
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Those in female bodies have the tendency to be more on the ‘receptive’ part of energy exchange and thus may be more open to receiving energies from those who enter the sacred opening with their magic bodily wands. But as women, we should not forget, that we are also in the giving and releasing mode sometimes with our wombs. Every month to be exact, we release and let go of what’s been stored in our yoni’s that we no longer want. And even when energies are sticky, there are a lot of methods to get rid of them. Like it would happen when you catch some unwanted attention or energy in non-sexual contexts.
So please please please, ladies (and gentlemen), don’t let any external concepts draw you away from exploring and expressing your authentic sexual energy. It is yours. It’s all yours to decide how you want to move this life energy through your body.
You don’t need to be in a monogamous relationship and only have sex at candlelight with long eye gazing for it to be sacred. (Which can all be amazing btw.) Sacred sex can also be primal, induced with elements of BDSM, roleplay, or other kinks. It can be with or without penetration and orgasms. With a person you just met or your longtime lover. With people of any gender and sex. With multiple people at once, or all by yourself.
What sacred sex means to me: using sexual energy freely in a safe, sane, and a consensual way for the means of personal growth with possibilities in the realm of erotic, sensation, and spiritual exploration.
And if all of that means I’m being categorized as a ‘slut’, I’m happy to join the movement of reclaiming that word.
Much love,
Minne
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